Friendship and expectations.

I was considering a saying ‘ good men bear burdens while bad men cast them aside’ when I paused mid thought.
Was it correct? Must we be shackled by our roles and expectations to be considered good? Are those who are true to themselves bad for walking away from the expected path? Many have broken under the weight of their responsibilities while others have lost themselves, never finding their way back.
Evolution/change doesn’t happen by staying the same. However safety and stability cannot be found on ever shifting sands.
However my thoughts shifted to friendships (yeah I’m a random sort of person) and wondered if it was possible to have a friendship without expectations.
By its very nature a friendship can be said to be a social contract in which favors are exchanged for the mutual benefit of the parties involved.
So… it’s not exactly possible for there to be a friendship without expectations. I mean hoping to enjoy their company is an expectation in itself.
But how much is reasonable, and how much is too much?
Admittedly, I have been the kind of individual that has failed/ disappointed quite a few people in my lifetime, and have also been disappointed in turn.
But I wondered is the fault on those who were expected or the ones expecting?
Some cases are easy. If a promise was made n broken it’s the fault of the one making it. If none were made its the expectees fault for not making themselves clear.
However some cases aren’t so simple. If I befriended a son of a rich man, is he expected to give me a loan when I’m broke? If I befriend a person with disabilities, to what extent is it good to give assistance?
Some times its clear, others ambiguous.
Just some ramblings I needed to let out.


Instagram, inktober and other things

A lot of the time what keeps me from making regular posts is a mixture of insecurity, laziness and a pinch of perfectionism. While consulting with one of my few real life friends, I was given the simple advice “just write, as you keep writing, the kinks will work themselves out.

And so I shall.

A few months ago I got on the social app instagram (yes I’m a late bloomer and my head has been under a rock.. . I get it.) and had quite a bit of fun with it.
There are a lot of interesting people,some who I followed and a few (too few) that followed me.

Recently I engaged in a activity called #inktober, a 30 day art thingie that occurs every october. I, myself decided to do an artwork a day for the whole month.

Honestly… I failed. But I can say that I did 22 days out of 30. Sooo close! However there’s always a next time for everything under the sun.

My Instagram ID’s radraplus. Go check it out and hopefully follow me. I promise to follow you back.

And last but not the least, my inktober sketches!

Might have forgotten one or two but I hope you enjoy the pics more than I did drawing them.

Enjoy your day.